She is:
At one of the sessions of the University of Practical Psychology, our teacher, wonderful trainer and coach Vladimir Vinogradov spoke about the practice that he conducted together with his wife under the motto «365 sunny days a year.» This practice, which is in fact their new family tradition, is very simple: every evening in the family calendar they drew a sun, which meant love and gratitude to a partner. And if something was wrong, a cloud appeared next to the sun. It is clear that the appearance of a cloud caused a discussion: what kind of cloud and where did it come from, what did one of the partners do or say wrong?
When I was driving home after the training, I told my beloved man about it. It was immediately decided — to draw the suns in the evenings. This practice turned out to be a great opportunity to focus on our relationships, or rather on their improvement.
Performing this ritual, I concluded that if something seems wrong to me in the behavior of a loved one, it is better not to say it right away — you can not resist reproach. And when reproaches worked in relation to a man? But keeping silent about this is also not an option, in this case the situation will most likely repeat itself, and I will experience the same negative emotions — and patience of this kind will not lead to anything good. The best discussion turned out to be «clouds», if they already appeared — in the evenings, when we are calm and everyone knows that we need to discuss what worries each of us. This practice helps me learn not to hush up, not to harbor resentment or discontent, but to speak with a partner. I think that thanks to the simple drawing of the suns, it has become much easier for me and my beloved to discuss our family plans in the same way, as well as what we should do better and what we are striving for. Take care of your family relationships! Appreciate and improve yourself and your loved ones.
Is he:
Just three weeks of using this method gave me a very visual graph and a clear picture of what was happening to us at that time. It is easy to notice on what days everything goes smoothly for us and it is immediately noticeable what else needs to be worked on and what needs to be discussed. Storms in a glass cause a lot of pressure in every sense, which in one way or another affects the health of all family members. Children especially clearly feel it. It turns out that it helps me in maintaining the health of both my own and those I love. Speaking of drawing the suns, we mean by this a kind of game, and, as you know, playing games together is not only interesting, but also useful. I have already mentioned health, but this is not the only factor that improves me. I’m talking about the daily (many, for sure, bored) duties as spouses. It’s not about sex, it’s about care. Care that you want to receive and want to give. It is an everyday action that brings a smile or joy to both that can not only improve, but also develop relationships. So to speak, to reach a new stage. For many couples, everything goes by periods. Not many couples have these periods at all. How and why? The answer to this question, oddly enough, is also in these same suns. It is comparable to a training plan, only there is a mental interaction, as a result of which I become better. So I can say for sure that the suns help me and my wife to improve both for us individually and for us as a couple. This is very easily and clearly demonstrated by the same clouds or clouds from my side or from her side, which in a longer period makes it possible to say exactly who has more or less claims, wishes, or joy and pleasures. In a word, it came in handy for me, since there is a benefit, the meaning is also present and brings it together.
Video from Yana Shchastya: interview with professor of psychology N.I. Kozlov
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