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Relationship with the body, self-perception, aspirations, motivation, self-love and acceptance. All these concepts do not exist in a vacuum; man is a social being. The opinion of other people is important to us, fashion is important, it is important to be inside the group. Fitness trainer Ksenia Korol about where the dislike for one’s own body comes from.
How often do you hear from a slender and beautiful acquaintance that she is fat and needs to lose weight? How often are overweight girls embarrassed to get naked on the beach, or do you feel like you’re being examined and judged by your appearance?
There is a video on YouTube where children are asked what they would like to change in the body. Children are surprised, why change something? Thinking, someone orders cheetah legs, super strength, someone orders a mermaid tail. The same questions are asked to adults. Super strength is not needed by anyone, give long legs, a thin nose and narrow ankles. Complexes are not inherent in us initially, in childhood we accept our bodies and enjoy the health, strength and movement that they give.
Experience with clients who are dissatisfied with their body and nutrition, conversations and observations have helped to identify recurring toxic situations that lead to discord with the body.
Each meeting after the holidays begins with a discussion of who has eaten how many kilograms
Avoiding these situations gives a cosmic result, you start smiling at the reflection in the mirror and buying fashionable dresses.
Ritual confessions with friends
Two main topics in any women’s company: men and diets. Every self-respecting girl should definitely tell a story about the times when she was in perfect shape, how she lost her shape, and about the part of the body that she hates. Usually there are even photos that are shown to each other. Each meeting after the holidays begins with a discussion of who has eaten how many kilograms and how they will work it out now. Eating desserts at a holiday cannot do without condolences from the series «this is what we sin, okay, tomorrow in the hall.» Such conversations do not motivate, but draw energy. Group self-flagellation will not lead to a dream body, but will only increase feelings of guilt and tension.
Discussion and condemnation of other people’s bodies
In the company of girlfriends and social networks, discussions of other people’s bodies are in full swing. Neighbors Lucy, who lost 20 kilograms and put in her breasts, Zina’s accountant and her big buttocks. Singer Serafima and her cellulite, photographed by the paparazzi, an actress from the series and her forms after giving birth. The girls scrupulously look at the photo (are there any traces of Photoshop?), put likes or dislikes, talk about health from the photo, like grandmother-sorceresses from the outback.
The body is a personal matter. No one knows what lies behind the ideal or most terrible form. People who do not allow others to be as they want to be, very much interfere with living in pleasure and enjoying their body. Having decided for yourself that someone else’s figure no longer touches you, you will find that there are fewer complaints about your own.
Looking at perfect beauties on Instagram (an extremist organization banned in Russia)
The woman who admits that she hates her body always tells the same story. “I sit on Instagram (an extremist organization banned in Russia) from morning to evening. I signed up for perfect bodies, of course. They motivate me.” It is not specified what these idealized, often completely retouched images motivate. Unfortunately, not to go to the gym and eat hearty porridge in the morning. But they inspire tears in the fitting room of some mass-market brand with a bluish light that emphasizes cellulite.
Let’s remember the school program. If I want to compare something, it needs to be reduced to a common denominator. I can’t compare my normal self after a sleepless night in a mirror with bad light and a professional photo of an insta beauty in the right position with the right light taken from the hundredth take.
If you want to compare, go to a fashionable glossy photographer. Let him shoot you, retouch and then to your health. And it’s better not to spend money on this, since Instagram (an extremist organization banned in Russia) has an “unsubscribe” button, returning yourself to the world of mere mortal people. And there is beauty here too. Do an experiment. Tape cleaning gives a strictly positive effect. Well, if it doesn’t help, you can always subscribe back. Insta diva will not even notice your infidelity among millions of fans.