25 habits of modern moms that shock grandmothers

Avoiding swaddling

Even 20 years ago, it was customary to swaddle children tightly. It was believed that a child sleeps better if he is deprived of the opportunity to freely swing his arms-legs. In addition, the baby can accidentally scratch himself. Now parents get by with sliders and mittens. Waving her arms? Great, this is a great exercise for a baby.

Passion for diapers

“You’ve been asking me for a pot since two months. And now they are blowing into their pants until they are three years old, ”- my mother is categorically against diapers. She is sure: because of them, it is more difficult to potty train a child. In my childhood, they were worn solely for the sake of going to the clinic, for a long winter walk, or for the night if the child was sick. Nowadays diapers are the norm around the clock. However, their harm has not been proven.

Potty training

Our mothers and grandmothers began to plant children on the pot for a maximum of six months. Now parents may not do this at all. The baby does not go to the potty at two years old – it does not matter. And psychologists say that there is no need to aggressively potty train a child. Rather, on the contrary, the baby can be so scared, and as a result, he will refuse to even come close to him.

Bathing in a shared bath

“This is unhygienic,” my ex-mother-in-law clutched at my heart when I started little Sasha by swimming in a big adult bath. I didn’t see any problem in this. The child, on the contrary, feels good and at ease, there is where to turn around. And in the baby bath, how can you frolic? In addition, we exchange bacteria with her non-stop. Well, if someone has such a problem as foot fungus, then it is still better to clean the bath more often.

Motion sickness

You can rock children. Even necessary – tactile contact is very useful for babies. But sometimes the motion sickness turns into shaking. And this is no longer useful for children. British doctors are increasingly recording injuries that children receive precisely because of motion sickness. It turns out that one awkward movement is enough for the baby to get a spinal injury.

Shaving your head

“Sasha is already a year old,” is another thick hint from my ex-mother-in-law. I kept silent so as not to get into arguments. Yes, I myself was shaved bald in a year. True, I had extremely nasty hair, and shaving, according to my mother, corrected the situation a little. But with my child, I was not going to do that. Her hair was fine. And trichologists say that this procedure is pointless, and sometimes harmful – shaving can damage the hair follicles.

Baby Care

Zelenka, powder, petroleum jelly are the main tools for child’s skin care that our grandmothers had. And now? Hypoallergenic, for sensitive skin, soothing, invigorating – full of funds. And we use them, completely forgetting about brilliant green and talcum powder from diaper rash. In fairness – in some cases, the powder works better than newfangled oils, creams and other cosmetic miracles.

Photos of babies on social networks

Well, yes, superstition. The first month of the baby does not need to be shown to anyone at all, and photographs can be exhibited only after a year. But many mothers fearlessly post pictures of babies on their pages. Doctors and psychologists reproach them for this. But not from superstitious motives, but from ethical reasons: the child will grow up and decide for himself in what form he wants to appear before the public, and in what not.

Clothes that are too light

In fact, it is not easy at all, but quite normal. But grandmothers prefer to wrap up their grandchildren so that only their nose sticks out. Some mothers succumb to this cold fear. Looking at them, I would like to ask: why is your child in a hat, tights and a warm jacket, and you yourself in shorts and a T-shirt? Doctors, too, unanimously say: wrapping up is harmful. And doctor Komarovsky even encroached on the sacred – he said that walking barefoot on the floor (it’s cold!) Is much more useful than in slippers.

Sports from birth

“Lord, what are they doing,” – Lyudmila Narusova clutched at her head, watching her grandson, who was barely a month old, wallow in the pool. At two years old, today’s children are able to skate, show results in rhythmic gymnastics and do ballet. In the days of our grandmothers, this was simply unthinkable.

Introduction of complementary foods

Borscht at three months. Yes, during our childhood, such a phenomenon was quite normal. I myself have a photograph where I am enthusiastically sucking on a huge lamb bone – and I’m only six months old! Now mothers approach complementary foods very carefully and try to introduce new products strictly on schedule, and only those recommended by pediatricians.

Jar puree

“We have to cook ourselves,” the grandmothers grumble. “I’ve rubbed everything on a grater, rubbed it through a sieve.” Yes, they are, of course, right. But only if vegetables intended for baby food have grown in their own garden. Now doctors advise to buy only seasonal vegetables and fruits in the markets. And even then with caution, after all, no one knows what these plants were fertilized with. And the contents of the jars are at least tested for pesticides and other harmful substances.

Traveling with babies

The son of the same Ksenia Sobchak by the year has already flown all over the world: he visited Europe, Asia, America, Sochi and the Crimea. And Djigan and Oksana Samoilova ride around the world with all three children. But the youngest was born at the end of April – still a baby. But parents are not afraid to travel with babies. Flight, another country, another climate – so what! The main thing is that the child has all the necessary vaccinations and a first-aid kit, just in case, at hand.

Financial spending

Everything, literally all children’s things are much more expensive than adults. But strollers are just shock, stress and bewilderment. After all, they can cost well over one hundred thousand rubles, and the average price fluctuates around 40-50 thousand. Doctors also say that buying a baby stroller from hands is not worth it. Well, or immediately change the mattress in it, which still needs to be matched to this particular model of the stroller. In addition, modern models seem to our parents very close in comparison with their usual “troughs”.

Spoiledness

“I listen to how some people talk to their parents and grandmothers – it’s just some kind of nightmare. The children act as if the older relatives are the attendants, ”my mother says indignantly.

Yes, being spoiled is not always the number of toys. This is a “you owe me everything” attitude. And with this, children still sin.

Home help

“Mom, she is able to spread her own sandwich,” my mother said irritably to her. I was really able to do it: by the age of eight I knew how to cook pasta, and porridge, and make scrambled eggs, and fry potatoes. I had a bunch of chores around the house: dishes, cleaning, helping with the laundry. And in the summer – a dacha. At the same time, my niece does not always even remove the plate from the table. “It’s easier for me to do it myself, all the same, then after it I will have to redo it,” her mother dismisses. A sad scheme.

School load

And extracurricular too. A bunch of lessons, a bunch of homework, a bunch of clubs and sections, tutors … Children have no free time at all. And if it does, what they spend it on is a separate question.

Gadgetomania

Children are amazingly easy to use smartphones, tablets, computers. This is surprising for grandmothers, because it is not at all easy for them to master digital wisdom. But there is nothing to be surprised at. After all, our children were born in such a world – digitized. Another question is that they spend too much time alone with gadgets. Scientists believe that the imagination of children suffers from this: the parts of the brain responsible for creative thinking do not develop. And they are not able to pretend that this stick is actually a Jedi sword.

We don’t talk much with children

Everyone is too busy – both adults and children. And they are also prone to gadgetomania. Instead of talking to each other, our whole family is stupid at the screens. From this, in fact, the legs of many psychological problems “grow”: children do not feel that their parents need them. Hence bad behavior, bordering on deviant, just to get attention.

Nevertheless, physically, we now spend twice as much time with children as we did ourselves. The only question is the quality of communication.

Talking about sex

Conversations about “it” didn’t get any less awkward. But gradually the understanding comes to parents that things should be called by their proper names. That there is nothing shameful about the words “penis” and “vagina”. Children perceive these parts of the body quite normally – it is like an arm or a leg. And adults, with their false bashfulness, make them think that the intimate sphere is something shameful.

And another story – the grandmother of one boy called his penis a sparrow. When the boy saw real sparrows on the street, he was, to put it mildly, surprised.

Children don’t like to read

Nobody likes to step out of their comfort zone. What is the point of straining, learning letters, putting them into words and sentences, when you can turn on the TV or bury yourself in your laptop? Scientists note that a generation of people with clip thinking is growing now. They find it difficult to read long novels and stories, they prefer stories or posts on social networks. And full-length films were exchanged for serials.

Children don’t like to walk

When was the last time you heard the cry “Misha, go home!” And “Misha, come out!” And when did you see a band of children engaged in an active game such as bouncers or Cossack robbers? No, that doesn’t happen. Everyone walks with their mothers. You can still see a cheerful crowd in the playgrounds. But the kids play in a strict cordon of vigilant mothers. It’s scary to let children out alone, that’s understandable. And teenagers do not go for a walk already quite consciously. They prefer to spend time in the virtual world.

Attitude towards punishment

Spanking, putting in a corner – it was completely normal in our childhood. And to go to a psychologist – no. Now everything is exactly the opposite. God forbid admitting that you gave the child a spanking! Welcome to the ranks of mothers, “where the guardianship authorities look” and “call the ombudsman”. If the child misbehaves, he is dragged to a psychologist. Strange, isn’t it?

Modern cartoons and toys

“What is this ugliness? Some pigs with mouths on their side, with creepy dimes, ”- the 60-year-old mother of my friend is categorically disposed. Tamara Nikolaevna says the same about toys: all these Monster High terrifies her. Our dolls were much better, in her opinion. So what if they all have the same. And the cartoons were much kinder. It doesn’t matter that the wolf tried to devour its neighbor, the hare, and the mice diligently and consistently squeezed Leopold’s cat from the light.

Reasons not to give birth

This is our cherry on top. Now many are in no hurry to give birth. First, we need to build a career, provide a financial cushion, buy an apartment, a car, and then … Our mothers simply did not think of such reasons not to give birth to children. They often lived in close quarters, in one apartment for four or five generations. Not to say that it was good, but that now is bad. It’s just different.