Sincerely falling in love, we try to do everything so that the subject of passion wants to spend more time with us. And we also dream of making him feel good and comfortable with us. Here are some tips to help you become the best in the eyes of your loved one.
1. Don’t neglect your looks…
Most likely, if you have been dating for a long time, then you have long ceased to dress up for dates. But in vain: by starting to do it again, you will show your partner that you respect him and try for him, and this is very valuable.
2. … even if you live together
Even if during the “candy-bouquet” period, each of you saw the other “at the parade”, now, having gathered together, you most likely appear in front of each other mainly in faded T-shirts and pants with outstretched knees. Nobody says that you have to walk around the house in stilettos or in ironed trousers, and yet try to look even at home so that you are not ashamed to open the door to friends who have suddenly appeared.
3. Be reliable
If you’ve made an appointment, do your best to arrive on time and in general. Do not refuse offers and invitations, even if you are terribly busy, otherwise your partner will understand that a relationship with him is not a priority for you.
4. Don’t be a slob
Perhaps, over the years of living alone, you have become accustomed to socks scattered around the house, mountains of dirty dishes in the sink, and the fact that an exercise bike or chair is forever buried under a pile of clothes. And, perhaps, you are not ashamed of this, believing that a partner should accept you the way you are. But the truth is, you just don’t want to put in the effort for the other person.
5. Share responsibilities willingly
The key here is “willingly”. Taking on some of the household chores or contributing to the life of the family, constantly grumbling and indignant, of course, is better than doing nothing at all, but not much.
6. Try to smell nice
It would seem obvious, but, alas, many begin to neglect hygiene, especially when they move in with a partner.
7. Talk about sex
And not only that you want it. Find out what your partner likes and doesn’t like and talk about your preferences. Don’t pressure him with sex and never use him as a tool to get what you want. Talk about sex, no matter what stage of the relationship you’re in.
8. Try to establish contact with the partner’s environment
With family, friends, and maybe colleagues. With everyone who is important to a loved one. If you don’t even try, be sure he or she will notice.
9. Take the initiative, but do not try to control
Offering options for spending time together is important, but try not to dictate how you spend your leisure time. Listen to his or her wishes.
10. Remember that anger is destructive.
Of all the emotions, it is he who can cause the most pain to loved ones. Of course, we all get angry and indignant from time to time, but the main thing is to learn how to competently cope with our feelings and behave correctly in the midst of a conflict. If you know that you are prone to aggressive expressions of emotions, do not put off working on it for a long time.
11. Say “yes” more often than “no”
Constant rejections, doubts and phrases like “no” and “yes, but …” gradually undermine the relationship tree. If what your partner suggests seems interesting, say “yes” or “I’ll think about it.” If not, take a break and don’t give up right away.
12. Try to take things lighter
Learn to enjoy life more – both together and on your own. People are drawn to those who can see the bright side in everything and treat everything with humor. You want to be with these people. Don’t take yourself and others too seriously.
13. Just listen without trying to solve the problem.
If your partner is in trouble, chances are all he or she needs is a chance to speak up, get support, and know you’re on their side. Do not rush with advice, even if you are sure that you know exactly how to fix it. First, turn off the sound on your phone and listen carefully and compassionately.
14. Share some thoughts
Not all, of course, it is not necessary, and boring. But don’t keep everything to yourself. Don’t make your partner guess what happened to you and tiptoe around you until you recover.
15. Be careful
Being sensitive will allow you to do something for your partner that will make his or her life easier and make you feel loved and appreciated. Do not forget to make pleasant surprises from time to time.
16. Help your partner
Need help writing a resume? Computer broken? Problems at work? Partner mired in household chores? Ask how you can help, or just help.
17. Cook
It would seem that today, in the days of round-the-clock delivery, the need for this has disappeared, and yet to cook something for a loved one means to show him or her that you care.
18. Smile
Forget about sarcasm and cynicism – smile more often and laugh heartily. It’s free and helps relationships so much!
19. Stay inspired
It is impossible to endlessly rejoice in everything and everything, it is exhausting. But people are drawn to someone who enjoys life in its simplest manifestations. 20. Invest in your future, make joint plans – where you will go for the weekend, where you will spend your vacation, what you will do next with your common life. This will let your partner know that you are serious.
20. Invest in your future
Make joint plans – where you will go for the weekend, where you will spend your vacation, what you will do next with your common life. This will let your partner know that you are serious.