You can arrange the interlocutor, soften the anger of the boss, get your way from business partners and even fall in love with yourself using simple tricks.
This list of psychological techniques is confirmed by practice. Perhaps some of them resemble manipulation. Others may use these techniques in dealing with you, but those who are warned are armed.
1. At the beginning of an acquaintance, pay attention to the color of the eyes of one of those present. Let this information not be useful to you (unless, of course, you are going to dedicate poems to him). But this technique helps to achieve optimal eye contact, showing your interlocutors your friendliness and self-confidence.
2. People remember best what happened at the beginning and at the end of the day, and everything that happens between these points is perceived as blurry. Therefore, when scheduling an interview, try to be first or last on the list of candidates.
3. The position of the feet of people participating in a conversation can give away their hidden emotions. For example, if you approach two acquaintances and they turn to you only with their bodies, keeping the position of their feet, they are clearly not disposed towards you. Similarly, the toes of the interlocutor’s shoes or boots turned away from you indicate that he wants to leave as soon as possible.
4. When a group of people burst into laughter, everyone instinctively casts a glance at the one who is most sympathetic to him. By the way, this is a great way to calculate office romances.
5. If you want to get an honest answer to a question, and the interlocutor shirks, pause, as qualified psychotherapists do. Be silent for a while, continuing to look into the eyes of the interlocutor. As a rule, a person becomes embarrassed and he seeks to fill a pause.
6. If you feel that the boss is preparing to give you a fly-over, sit right next to him. Your close proximity will lower his aggression level and you can get away with it.
7. If you ask people for small favors, they start to like you. This is the psychological mechanism: we value more those who have been taken care of at least once.
8. Try to remember the person’s name when you first meet and use it in subsequent communication. This will position him towards you.
9. Unobtrusive mirroring of other people’s gestures contributes to the establishment of trust. The main thing is not to overdo it.
10. Making your way through the crowd, try to look at the gaps between people, and not at themselves. It forces people to step aside in front of you.
11. An adrenaline-fueled date—like a rollercoaster ride, watching a horror movie, or flying together in an airplane—stimulates the arousal centers in the brain and brings you closer to the object of passion.
12. Try not to start sentences with the words “I think” and “It seems to me.” This goes without saying in your speech, but emphasizes unnecessary uncertainty.
13. The best way to learn is to teach yourself. If you learn something new or master a new skill, try to share it with others.
14. People value their own self-image. Try to figure out how others see themselves in their own eyes.
15. If your job is customer service, put a mirror behind you. This will allow people waiting in line to be less bored and angry about it.
16. Are you dating someone you want to like? Then, as brightly and emotionally as possible, demonstrate the joy of meeting with him. This will make him enjoy you almost as intensely next time.