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- 1. According to statistics, couples who get engaged at the age of 23 are several times less likely to divorce.
- 2. After a year of relationship, attraction decreases.
- 3. People can be incompatible in the child-adult relationship model
- 4. The happiest marriages between best friends
- 5. Peers are less likely to divorce.
- 6. One of the conditions for a happy relationship is the ability to rejoice.
- 7. Solving household issues unites more than 60% of couples
- 8. Modern man is more demanding of the opposite sex
- 9. You can only get to know a person well after 10 years of marriage.
- 10. Couples who lived together before marriage are more successful.
- 11. Material dependence of one partner on another destroys couples.
- 12. We think that everyone around is cheating, but not our partner.
- 13. Gratitude is the key to a long-term marriage.
- 14. Relationships – the path of development
- 15. The quality of sex is more important than its quantity.
Whose marriage is stronger – peers or couples with a large age difference? How many years does it take to really get to know a partner? What is more important: the regularity of sex or its quality? The answers to all these questions will not help you choose a life partner, but they will help you better prepare for marriage. Forewarned means forearmed.
Before hiring a wedding planner, take a closer look at your relationship. Which of the following applies to you and which does not? 15 facts will help you look at marriage from a new angle.
1. According to statistics, couples who get engaged at the age of 23 are several times less likely to divorce.
According to research conducted at the University of Greensboro in North Carolina, the divorce rate among couples who marry at a more conscious age is 30%. And among couples who got married before the age of 23 – 60%.
2. After a year of relationship, attraction decreases.
The honeymoon cannot go on forever. This is proved by studies of the University of Pavia in Italy. After a year of marriage, the level of hormones decreases slightly.
3. People can be incompatible in the child-adult relationship model
Let’s go back to the 1960s and look at the three-level model of understanding the personality of Eric Berne. Everyone has three states – “parent” (development), “child” (feelings) and “adult” (knowledge). It is not necessary that there be symmetry, the main thing is that you complement each other according to these psychotypes.
4. The happiest marriages between best friends
Marriage leads to an increase in well-being if it is built on mutual understanding and friendship. In such relationships, we enjoy life.
5. Peers are less likely to divorce.
Age differences affect relationships. The greater the age difference between partners, the more often they have friction and disagreements in marriage.
6. One of the conditions for a happy relationship is the ability to rejoice.
Imagine the situation: a girl comes home after a hard day at work. She has good news – let’s say she got promoted. There are four possible reactions from her partner:
- “That’s great, dear, you’ve been working towards this for a long time.”
- The phrase “This is good news” and a smile.
- “So you’re going to be stuck at work all the time now?”
- “Clear. You won’t believe what happened to me today!”
Consider which option is more suitable for you.
7. Solving household issues unites more than 60% of couples
One of the decisive factors is the ability to negotiate in everyday things.
8. Modern man is more demanding of the opposite sex
Psychologist Eli Finkel found that marriage in America has evolved in this way:
- before 1850 – marriages for food, shelter and protection;
- until 1965 – the desire for companionship;
- after the 1970s – the desire for self-realization through relationships.
9. You can only get to know a person well after 10 years of marriage.
You don’t know each other as well as you would like. Yes, you know what toothpaste your partner uses and what series they like. But the longer you are together, the stronger your emotional and intellectual connection.
10. Couples who lived together before marriage are more successful.
The opportunity to live together before marriage is a test drive for future relationships. This will allow you to get to know each other better.
11. Material dependence of one partner on another destroys couples.
Recent research conducted at the University of Connecticut has shown that a person who is financially dependent on his partner does not feel safe.
12. We think that everyone around is cheating, but not our partner.
Trust is a solid foundation upon which a great relationship is built. But you don’t have to go all out.
13. Gratitude is the key to a long-term marriage.
If you feel grateful for your partner, you can look forward to a longer relationship.
14. Relationships – the path of development
Married life is a responsibility for each other. You cannot stay still if you want a harmonious relationship. We are all different, with our own ideas about life and differences in the value system.
15. The quality of sex is more important than its quantity.
One study showed that the main thing is not the quantity of sex, but its quality. Heterosexual couples were divided into two groups: for 90 days, half of them adhered to the usual schedule of sexual relations, and the other half doubled the amount of sex. The results of the studies showed that the second group felt a little less happy than usual.