In recent years, there has been a lot of talk around about working on oneself, self-development, but these processes are impossible without an honest conversation with oneself. A conversation in which we admit to ourselves that we are not perfect. That they were wrong and made mistakes.
- You fail to do what you want, simply because you just started. Any skill takes practice. Success requires first of all hard work, and not a lucky coincidence or support from others. Nobody owes you anything except yourself.
- You go out of your way too often just to impress others. It’s time to stop trying so hard to prove something to someone – first of all, that you deserve love and respect. People by and large almost never care about other people’s achievements. Focus on yourself, your goals, and stop worrying about what others will say.
- It is impossible to prepare for the departure of those we love. Those we hold dear cannot be kept, no matter how hard we try. Death can come suddenly, so just spend more time together while everyone is alive.
- Happiness can be bought – if only because money helps us feel calmer and safer. So don’t listen to those who say they are not important.
- Habit is the way to achieve the goal. Many do not get what they want precisely because they do not understand: everything must begin with the formation of new habits (experts say that it takes an average of three months), with hard everyday work.
- The reason for your failures is not at all in your past experience. The fact that they fail to succeed in life or that their project does not work out, many blame anyone and anything but themselves: parents, a difficult childhood, an unfavorable environment. But such an approach, alas, only hinders development and moving forward.
- It is impossible to lose weight without changing your eating habits. They are no less important than regular exercise.
- You take your family for granted too often. When was the last time you sincerely said “I love you” to a loved one? The question is especially relevant if the relationship between you leaves much to be desired – even in this case, it is worth remembering that relatives are not eternal. Start catching up today.
- It’s impossible to be friends with everyone. If only because toxic (heavy, harmful, unbearable – call it what you want) people really do occur. And if there are such characters in your environment, you can be sure that it harms your mental state.
- Prizes and recognition don’t give you superpowers. Do not get involved in the race for rewards – enjoy the process.
- To make more money, you need to spend less and save more. The “just earn more” approach doesn’t always work, and certainly not instantly, but almost everyone can save at least a tiny amount every day.
- You are your harshest critic. Do not question your success – it will not lead to anything good.
- You are vulnerable – and that’s okay. You can be unsettled by someone else’s rudeness, and aggressive comments on social networks, and unfair criticism. Do what you can – protect yourself from all this as much as possible.
- Most likely, you need a psychotherapist. So, as soon as the opportunity arises, immediately seek help. And don’t listen to those who say that “therapy is for wimps”, “you don’t have real problems” and “you can handle everything on your own”
- You get lazy sometimes, and that’s okay too. The key to being productive is not to work non-stop, but to manage your time wisely, replenish resources, and rest.
Perhaps some of the points listed above do not apply to you – in this case, you can only be congratulated. But, most likely, you simply do not want to admit this uncomfortable truth to yourself. Here’s the thing: once you admit that something in yourself and your life is really worth changing, you can take the first step towards change.