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Hello dear blog readers. The topic of today’s article is a happy life. It seems to be that it is difficult to enjoy life? But, unfortunately, not everyone succeeds, and daily stresses can knock the ground out from under the feet of even the most inveterate optimist. And today I want to offer you several methods by which you can notice yourself and feel happiness. So, are you ready?
Methods
1. Appreciate
Do you know who is actually a happy person? The one who knows how to appreciate what he has. Yes, having a dream and longing for something is great, as it motivates you to take action. But what is the point of achieving something if there is no feeling of joy later? You can suffer for 10, 20 or more years from not being able to get something, but you can look back and notice how much you already have. And here already everyone makes a choice in what kind of feelings he prefers to be.
2. Present moment
Learn to notice reality, the present moment, no one knows how much time he has, and whether the future will justify expectations, we are not able to influence the past, so the only thing left for us is to live here and now. You will receive good advice on how to learn to notice yourself in reality by looking at the article “How to learn to live here and now: consciously and in this moment?”.
3. Feelings
Paradoxical as it may seem, but by avoiding negative feelings, a person deprives himself of positive ones as well. It is important to surrender completely to pain, anger and other emotions, to live them — only then will there be a place in the soul for something new. So do not cling to your grievances and disappointments, by this you are punishing not the other, but yourself.
For example, you can be angry at the whole world for not being able to give birth to a child, or you can try to allow yourself to become happy. You just need to be honest with yourself. Do not just despair, but come to terms with the impossibility, opening up other ways — to realize your maternal or paternal instinct on other children.
4. Laziness
Stop being lazy, no one is obliged to take care of you instead of you. Yes, you can, but you don’t have to. This is what you need first of all. Therefore, every day ask yourself: “What do I want today?”, Constantly scan your well-being, both emotional and physical. And in the evening, before going to bed, be sure to think about what good you have done, what you have pampered and pleased yourself with. And no answers. There must be at least the slightest reason for a sincere smile.
5. Envy
If joy has ceased to come to you, and constant irritation against the background of envy has replaced it, it’s a disaster, but at least you can deal with it, although you have to try. The fact is that if you want something that another person possesses, you can envy in a good way, that is, understand the value of what you want and give everything 100% to achieve it. And you can go to the other pole, out of anger wishing all the bad things to this person, because now he seems much luckier.
The trouble is that dreaming about the destruction of a competitor, such a person brings negativity into his life, inhaling and exhaling hatred, closing himself off from loved ones and pleasant emotions. So, if you have problems with envy, try to work on it. And an article about envy will help you.
6. Pauses
To survive, a modern person has to be on the move all the time, otherwise competitors will overtake, opportunities will be lost, and so on. Why there is a constant feeling of anxiety, it becomes background, that is, it is present every second, accompanying its «owner», wherever he is. That is why psychologists recommend making pauses periodically, otherwise, in the race for something, you can lose not only loved ones, but also lose yourself.
7. Saturation
The problem with unhappy people is that they stop feeling full, which makes them look like puppies that are able to eat until they die, or they run out of food, the bowl is taken away. When was the last time you felt satisfied? How do you eat? Quickly pouncing on the dish, picking up and not really noticing the taste? Or do you chew slowly, trying to feel the variety of taste?
How do you read a book? Or how do you choose it in the first place? According to the cover, or not really thinking about what you want, grab the first one that comes across? It is these little things and nuances that make up our lives. Therefore, you need to pay attention to them, otherwise the day will follow another, and you will not notice how the years fly by … Brake yourself every time you have the opportunity to pause and enjoy the moment.
8. Diary
Get a notebook in which you will write out each of your “I want”, and then cross out, upon implementation and achievement. Perfect for those who devalue their efforts and what good is happening to them, as the notebook will serve as such a proof that everything is not so bad. You can also create a list on the reverse side of what makes you joyful, cheerful, every day, writing down at least three points.
It looks something like this: «I’m happy because …». Believe me, over time you will realize that you have enough reasons to rejoice, and that earlier for some reason you focused only on the bad.
9. Failure
Change how you respond to setbacks and obstacles. They happen to everyone, just not everyone stops at them. Let’s say a guy asked a girl out on a date but didn’t show up, what would be your reaction to that? A girl can cry, and then get angry and move on, forgetting about this incident, or she can now wait for him for days, being sure that she will show up, from which she limits contacts with others and does not go for a walk.
Or she may be disappointed in men in general, and every time she is called on a date, remember this incident and refuse, persuading herself that it is better to be alone. Which one do you think is more likely to live happily? Of course, the one that quickly releases negativity, as if writing failure into its own history, crediting it as an experience, not a tragedy.
Sometimes it is necessary to treat some things easier, and realize that there will always be difficulties, for everyone, and the main thing is not to try to get rid of them forever, but learn to overcome them without wasting all of yourself.
10. Purpose
A feeling of calmness and satisfaction comes when a person discovers why he came into this world, how he is useful and what his purpose is. Finds its place, so to speak. Everyone at least once, but thought about it, but not everyone found the answer. Perhaps because it is early, and perhaps because they are not able to be sincere. Check out the article on the meaning of life.
11. Limited
There are situations when a person experiences guilt for something that deliberately destroys health, for example, by abusing alcohol, or escapes into the virtual world, because in the real world, everything is not as simple as we would like. Think about how you yourself restrict access to something good? What do you do to make sure something doesn’t happen? And why are you being punished?
If you find the reason, say: «Live happily, I forgive myself and let go of the guilt, because I have atoned for it enough.» And so every day, until you feel that it works.
12. Satisfaction
Satisfy your needs, and in order to succeed, learn to recognize them. It seems to be so simple, everyone has desires, but if you ask: “What exactly do I want at the moment?” – then many will be confused. Because they do not know how to track needs, so the realization of some dreams does not bring pleasure, a person simply did not notice that the relevance was gone, and now they want something else.
Do you know how to learn to listen to yourself? That’s right, do it more often, and then you will automatically be able to track your state, at the subconscious level. At first, set an alarm clock so that every hour it reminds you to return to sensations and desires.
13. Action
Take action instead of waiting for a miracle to happen. The Universe does not bring gifts on a silver platter, it helps those who know how to give, and not just take. So take responsibility for your own happiness in your own hands and start taking action.
14. Sport
Go in for sports, during physical activity, endorphins, hormones of joy, are produced in the body. They are natural and help not only to cheer up, but even to alleviate suffering if something hurts.
Conclusion
And that’s all for today, dear readers! Sometimes depression is a serious obstacle to harmony and a sense of balance, so I want to suggest that you take the test “How depressed are you as a person”, perhaps you will find the root of the problem. Good luck and inspiration!