14 secrets of happy couples

1. Never go to bed angry.

“When we first got married, someone gave us this old-fashioned advice. Whatever bothers us, we talk about it with each other before going to bed. And then in the morning we wake up with a light feeling. Saying “yes, dear” and “yes, dear” once again does not hurt either.

Joanna and Brian, married 11 years

2. A glass of tequila and a bad memory are the key to family happiness.

“The key is how to swear. It is very important for family life not to hold grudges. We tell each other everything, then we kiss and have a glass of tequila – or two, depending on the severity of the case. Then we move on as if nothing had happened. Always works! It’s important not to dig through old trash. There is nothing worse than the phrase “Do you remember how you were 10 years ago…?” So it turns out that the key to a happy and long life is a bad memory!”

Donna and Day, together 42 years

3. Do not kick the horse when it has already dropped its hooves

“We resolve conflicts in different ways. Steve is not talkative. He will shut up and eventually move away. For me, on the contrary, the longer the time passes, the more I turn on. In the 29 years that we’ve been together, we’ve learned that it’s better to meet somewhere halfway – not to discuss the problem at the very moment it arose, but also not to kick the horse when it has already dropped its hooves. Do not misunderstand me. I have enough character to knock anyone out, but if I’ve said enough, I’ll stop.”

Marcia and Steve, together 29 years

4. Understand that you have a different operating system

“Although in the main we share the same values, we are such different people that after our wedding, Andy’s mother immediately advised us to take the Myers-Briggs test with a psychologist – in case it would help us understand each other … We did so and found that we and The truth is we are literally at different poles in everything. So when we argue about something, it’s not because one of us finds fault with the other – it’s just that we are like two computers with completely different software and operating systems. We had to learn to respect our differences.”

Karen and Andy, together 31 years

5. Law and order

“We have rules in our house. Some may sound stupid. For example, footpaths should be free. Translation: Don’t put your things in my way. The shoes must find their way to the closet, otherwise one day you will find yellow striped tape around them and arrows on the floor pointing the way. There are other rules, more serious. If something bothers you, tell me. You don’t lose your superpower by saying, “I was wrong, I’m sorry.” First the relationship, then your ego. It’s hard to be angry with someone who has apologized.”

Cindy and Terry, together 38 years

6. Burnt soup and matted sweater

“He who cooks does not wash the dishes. One buys food, while the other does laundry. And we have learned over the years not to criticize the work done. My husband put it in the washing machine and washed my favorite sweater at 100 degrees? No problem, I’ll buy a new one. Is something burnt and doesn’t look like its name at all? Nonsense, let’s order a pizza. This is an occasion to laugh at your mistakes. Relationships are everything.”

Cindy and Terry, together 38 years

7. “My” time for everyone

“Absence makes our hearts miss. Go on vacation… one at a time. Do your hobbies one by one too. It works for both.”

Mary and Eric, 42 years together

8. Friends to the grave

“30 years ago we were good friends. We had a common company, then we began to meet. Not immediately, but gradually came to this. We lived together for 30 years and still remain good friends, always honest with each other.

Max and Katy, 30 years together

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9. Don’t mimic

“No words “we think”! Remain an independent person, do not expect your spouse to save you or supplement you in some way. And do not change yourself so much as to adapt to another person. It will only make you unhappy in the long run.”

Max and Katy, together for 30 years

10. Every love has its time

“It is very important to recognize and accept changes in love. Passionate love for those who have only recently been together. Real love is when marriage becomes routine. “Nourishing and helping” – when you raise children. Newfound love – when the nest is empty. No relationship is static, change is inevitable. The secret is to adapt to these changes so that you continue to grow together, not alone. If you don’t change, your marriage will be like a dinosaur doomed to extinction.”

Rita and Steve, 48 years together

11. Shut up, woman

“If you want to be happy until the end of your marriage, never give your husband advice on the tennis court or during any other game. You will drive home in complete silence.

Jerry and Susie, together for 30 years

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12. Laughter after a fight

“There is no situation that cannot be corrected with a good joke and sincere laughter. If you quarreled, it’s normal, the main thing is that after that you disperse laughing. ”

Susie and Jerry, together for 30 years

13. Don’t be afraid to give in.

“If you see that something is truly important to your spouse, you will not lose if you give in to him. This means you value feelings and respect what is valuable to him. In something you are inferior, in something he will yield to you, but in general you will both win.

Julie and Billy, together 10 years

14. Be his cheerleader and 007’s girlfriend

“You cover his back, and he covers yours. You take his side and he takes yours. When you are a united team, you can endure anything.”

Shirlin and Sandy, lived together for 62 years

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