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Not only women love with their ears. Many conflicts and breakups could be avoided if women more often reminded their men that they are loved, appreciated and understood. How to do this, suggested coach Rick Riedl.
It is believed that emotions are important for women, which means that they need words of love and compliments. Men, according to many, are guided by logic. And they love only with their eyes, so they don’t need unnecessary talk and tenderness.
This traditional view is finally giving way to the understanding that we all, regardless of gender, want our loved one to recognize our importance in their lives. And it is just as important for men not to guess about it, but to hear specific words. What are they?
I understand you
Men want to feel like winners. When external circumstances do not favor the victorious movement forward, the last thing you want to hear is criticism or advice on what to do. All he needs now is support: your smile, hug and words: “I understand how difficult it is for you right now. If you want to talk, I’m here.”
I appreciate everything you have done
In a healthy relationship, both partners are willing to support each other. It is important for a man to feel that his care and attention are needed. This gives him confidence that he plays a significant role in the life of a loved one.
Be alone for as long as you need
To understand the problems, he sometimes needs to be alone, analyze the situation and live it emotionally. And it has nothing to do with how he treats you.
I was wrong. Please forgive me
In the heat of a quarrel, we can hurt each other with hurtful words. They hurt men just as much as women. They need to hear apologies that make them feel like you cherish them and didn’t mean to intentionally hurt them.
You made it amazing
Yes, we appreciate your praise and admiration. Recognition of victories by a loved one inspires and stimulates further exploits. This applies not only to achievements, but also to household trifles.
In other words, if he took apart the garage or helped replant the plants, don’t take it for granted. Be generous with praise and he will be more willing to do things that bring you joy.
You excite me
You may not hear him asking, “How do I look today?” This does not mean that he does not need confirmation that you find him attractive. Tell him that he is sexy and that you are fine with him. And you will find a partner with whom you will feel in an intimate relationship.
Why don’t you spend time with your friends?
He will be grateful for this if he has a busy period that requires extreme concentration. It is important for him to understand that you support and understand him and do not make him feel guilty that, having little free time, he decided to spend it not with you.
Thank you
It is important to hear a simple word from a loved one as often as possible. This means that you notice and appreciate everything he does for you.
tell me about it
Many men live big plans and like to look to the future. It can be a desire to start a business, improve your knowledge or excel in a hobby. By listening to him with interest, you make it clear that you take the intentions seriously and believe in him.
I need you
From this inspiring phrase, men radiate from the inside. The fact that you perceive him as a reliable partner is important for his self-esteem and self-confidence.
I believe in you
You give him the confidence that you have no doubt that he will have the determination to achieve everything that he has planned. You believe in his abilities. Thanks to these words from the closest person, this is most likely what will happen.
About the author: Rick Riedl is a coach and blogger.