Many girls dream of meeting the perfect man, marrying him, living happily ever after and dying on the same day.
Let’s start making the story come true. First you need to meet the man of your dreams.
So, first of all, we take a piece of paper and describe the man of our dreams. The description should be specific enough, for this you need to accurately determine what is important.
For example, a list of qualities of a dream man might look like this:
- Solves serious problems
- Can think logically
- Self-confident
- Eager to learn new things
- Does what it promised
- Sociable
- Right
- Positive attitude towards life
- Do some sports
- He clearly knows what he wants, can say
- With a sense of humor
- Not jealous
- Professional in his field
- Honest
Then we start getting to know each other. You need to get acquainted everywhere, often visit the habitats of men. Go to a party, even if you want to lie at home with your beloved cat, the film is interesting to watch. The task of this stage is to communicate with a variety of men as much as possible. Of course, many of them are not even close to the man of their dreams, and this is very good. Dates with such men are very good for training. On such dates, it is easy to learn how to impress a man: listen carefully, ask beautiful questions, smile delightfully, end the date yourself quickly, leaving the man a little hungry, and absolutely not wait for his call the next day. Such lightness, positivity and disinterest in continuing communication is very catchy for men, and it’s very good to do it completely automatically with the man of your dreams, when emotions are overwhelmed, but skill remains.
Let’s imagine two girlfriends: both of them wrote a list of the qualities of the man of their dreams, Tanya believes that you need to get to know each other a lot, and Masha believes that you can find out everything important in correspondence, and you need to go to a meeting only with those who match her list.
Tanya went to her website in the morning, saw 27 messages from different men, answered everyone something pleasant about today’s weather, wished her a good mood and left the site. At lunchtime I went again, looked to see if there were any offers to meet, chose 2 of them. On Saturday morning I went for a walk in the park, chatted with Ivan, of course, he did not fit her list at all, but she likes walking in the park, Ivan told funny stories about fishing, she smiled, made eyes at him, enjoyed the admiration in his eyes, in overall, had a good time. An hour later, Tanya said goodbye to Ivan, although he wanted to spend the whole day with her. And Tanya had to run home before the evening date. Ivan already in the evening of the same day began to write, offering to meet tomorrow. The next young man also did not hook Tanya, but the film was interesting, the coffee after the film was delicious, the young man’s eyes were admiring, Tanya was in a great mood. Her smile was especially cunning when she answered the morning Ivan in a cafe: “It’s uncomfortable for me to talk now, I’ll call you back later, okay?” Of course, Tanya did not meet the man of her dreams that day, but she had a great time and worked out.
Everything was different with Masha. She also went to her Internet page on Friday morning, even more messages than Tanya had: 35. Then she began to look at the pages of each young man, spent 2 hours on it. She liked three, and she answered them. One of them wrote back to her. It was very important for Masha to clarify how Nikolai corresponded to her list, so she began to ask questions about his work, about what apartment he lives in, whether the apartment is his or rented. Of course, a rich inner world is still very important for Masha, but she didn’t have time to ask anything on this topic, Nikolai left the dialogue, for some reason. I suppose that Masha’s questions pushed him away, made him suspect her of commercialism. She spent Saturday at home alone, continuing to study the Internet pages.
Of course, none of the girls at this stage met the man of their dreams, and which of them spent the weekend better?
Let’s say it’s been a few months. Tanya still had a good time, walking around interesting places, enjoying easy communication, especially not even noticing which of the men called for a second or third date, and which disappeared.
Masha went on dates only 3 times, carefully choosing with whom. She didn’t really like the men, but she was painfully worried when they didn’t call her, didn’t invite her for a second date.
Finally, they both met the man of their dreams. Tanya saw him, realized — this is HE, her heart began to pound, her legs began to tremble, she really wanted to chat incessantly, tell the funniest stories, or rather, kiss this miracle and drown in his arms. A little confusion quickly passed, Tanyusha pulled herself together and habitually began to ask and listen carefully. Of course, someone called her during a date, she habitually promised to call back later, although she understood that she would not call anyone back. The dream man sat opposite, and looked at her more and more interested and admiring. Tanya wanted to communicate with this wonderful man for a long, long time, but after an hour she habitually said that she had to go. Of course, the man was fascinated, and, seeing Tanya home, took from her a promise to keep him company at an interesting exhibition in 3 days.
Masha experienced the same feelings when she met her man. Of course, she began to talk a lot, laugh too loudly, in general, act stupider than usual. She wanted to walk with this wonderful man as long as possible, she was in no hurry to go home, no one ever called her. A man might like Masha, he was just a little tired, he himself offered to take her home. Of course, there was no talk of any agreements at the next meetings.
Why did Tanya and Masha’s first date go so differently? Because strong emotions make you dumber, Tanya was saved by the skill gained during training dates, and Masha had no such experience. She scared away the man of her dreams, and it’s not a fact that he will call her on a second date.
Therefore, if you want to impress the man of your dreams, train, go on dates as often as possible!
Video from Yana Shchastya: interview with professor of psychology N.I. Kozlov
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