In many cases, learning problems and child misbehavior can only be avoided by parents following some simple rules.
In the upbringing of children, prevention is as important as in medicine. It is much easier to prevent possible difficulties with learning or the behavior of a student than to “treat” neglected problems. Of course, not always we, parents, can predict how our behavior or words will affect the child. And yet, in certain situations, this connection is quite obvious … for teachers, but not for parents. Here are ten tips from a school principal that will help us avoid creating unnecessary problems for children (and ourselves).
1. Your children love you and look up to you. They imitate you, so be a good example for them. If you keep acting aggressive, whether in the store or in the parking lot, the child will behave the same way – with teachers, classmates, and with you. At school we try to give them an example of courtesy and courtesy towards others. If a child uses rude words about his comrades, he borrowed this vocabulary not from us.
2. Show your children how much you care about them. It’s not about repeating how much you love them at every step. Put your smartphone away when you drive your 11-year-old daughter from school – she wants to tell you about how her day went. Ask her, rejoice in her successes, cheer her up if she has failed in something. The child will cope much better with school affairs if he understands how dear he is to you.
3. The child needs to get enough sleep. Make sure he goes to bed on time, and take all the gadgets out of his room so he doesn’t succumb to the temptation to spend half the night on his tablet or phone. Do not buy him a new version of the game console a week before the session, so as not to be surprised later why he played all night long and flunked the exam.
4. Make sure your child eats well. It is very important that he does not leave for school without breakfast. During the day, he needs to snack and consume enough fluids.
5. Be prepared that things don’t always go smoothly. We look forward to you sharing your concern with us. We are open to discussion of any problems.
From the minute your child senses that you intend to take your anger out on the school and not on them, it will be difficult to deal with.
Don’t put off talking until the situation escalates and you become furious. In any case, do not yell at us at school or on the phone. We want to get things right, but maybe we have more urgent things to do at the moment.
6. It can happen that a child is bullied. Such is the reality. This does not mean that school is not a safe place. Sometimes children are cruel to each other. No need to threaten anyone. Do not be at odds with the offender’s parents. Support your child and help the school resolve the conflict in front of both children. Encourage your child to be kind, stand up for friends, and hold no grudges, even if you think they are 100 percent a victim.
7.Don’t blindly believe everything your child says about school, even if other kids confirm the story. The child knows well what strings to pull and how to relieve himself of guilt. No need to explode on the move and thirst for blood. Calmly find out at school what happened. From the minute your child senses that you intend to take your anger out on the school and not on them, it will be difficult to deal with. Then you will regret it.
8. Scolding the school on social media is a bad idea. What you post may be unverified information, but it will set off a chain reaction. In addition, this is how you separate school and family, which is unlikely to help resolve the problem. Do not comment on such posts by other parents or children. You will undermine your credibility.
9.Remember that social networks are not safe for children. You are responsible for keeping your child safe. For example, social media bullying can cause severe moral trauma. You may need to uninstall some of the apps your child is using or block some of their “friends”.
10. If you let your child not do their homework, if you don’t believe what teachers say about his work in class, if you always find an excuse for what he does or doesn’t do, sooner or later you will have to pay for it.
In the end, the child will behave at home in the same way as at school. He will not want to study, even when the final exams are on the nose. It is much better when parents support the school from the very beginning and instill good skills in the child, even if it is not easy for them. It’s worth it.