Contents
- 1. “If I’m wrong, I want to know about it”
- 2. “I don’t have to be the center of attention”
- 3. “Thank you, but I pass”
- 4. “I’m grateful for what I already have”
- 5. “I take responsibility for the consequences”
- 6. “My feelings and sensations in my body are important.”
- 7. “All days can’t be perfect”
- 8. “I build my life in such a way as to achieve the goal”
- 9. “Only healthy relationships suit me.”
- 10. “I’m good the way I am”
Books and articles, podcasts and videos all tend to teach us how to look confident: how to speak, hold, walk, dress, gesticulate. But what does it feel like not to doubt yourself, your decisions and actions, not only externally, but also internally?
1. “If I’m wrong, I want to know about it”
You can’t go through life without making a single mistake, and confident people are well aware of this. They are not afraid of mistakes, because because of them their identity and sense of self-worth do not suffer. They know how to separate themselves as a person and their mistakes, and the last for them is the opportunity to learn something new and grow, become better.
And of course, they do not seek to prove their case to everyone around and are not afraid that others will “catch” them in ignorance. They will not hastily invent an answer to the interlocutor’s question, but honestly admit: “I don’t know / haven’t watched (a) / haven’t read (a).
2. “I don’t have to be the center of attention”
Many mistakenly believe that confident people are used to being “on stage.” Of course, in order to consciously attract everyone’s attention to yourself, remarkable confidence is required, but our heroes do not need to stand out – as well as to look advantageous against the background of others.
On the contrary, they are sincerely admired by other people’s talents and success stories. But for an insecure person, the neighborhood with someone who can surpass him in some way is really frightening.
3. “Thank you, but I pass”
“Always say yes” is not about them: confident people carefully choose what and whom to spend their energy and time on. They have their own standards and boundaries, and they strictly adhere to them, and therefore they easily refuse even the most tempting offers, if right now, for example, they want to stay at home and be in silence more.
“Yes” to everything and everything is usually said by those who want to win the approval of others: they are simply afraid to refuse – it seems that they will immediately turn away from them.
4. “I’m grateful for what I already have”
Self-respecting people regularly thank the world, fate and life for what they have. Unlike people who are insecure, they do not compare themselves with others, constantly tormented by the fact that they lack something.
And in this it is quite easy to take an example from them: it is enough to start a gratitude diary and every day write out all the good things for which you want to say “thank you”.
5. “I take responsibility for the consequences”
Self-confident people make their own decisions and are responsible for the results of their actions. They believe that they are good enough to win, but do not forget that they can lose, and, as mentioned earlier, they are able to learn from mistakes.
People around usually trust such people and feel calm next to them, knowing that in which case they will not shy away from responsibility.
6. “My feelings and sensations in my body are important.”
The key to self-confidence is physical and mental health. And also – the ability to recognize their emotions and sensations in the body: our heroes understand that this directly affects how they manifest themselves in all areas of life without exception.
Therefore, as a rule, self-confident people take care of their body, do not neglect proper nutrition and physical activity. This allows them to better cope with stress and avoid the negative influences of the environment.
7. “All days can’t be perfect”
Confident people get upset sometimes too. Angry at themselves and others. They feel like everything is falling apart. And this is normal – it is impossible to be successful and happy 24/7, 365 days a year. Our heroes understand this very well and are able to reflect on what went wrong and why, draw conclusions and not repeat mistakes.
But for everyone else, “bad days” can greatly undermine and deprive of self-confidence: it seems that this is the end of the world and that from now on they can be considered losers.
8. “I build my life in such a way as to achieve the goal”
What is your purpose in life? What about the mission? And what do you do to achieve and realize them – do you choose the right job or hobby? Confident people know exactly what they want and live to achieve it.
9. “Only healthy relationships suit me.”
Have you ever met a confident person who would be treated badly by others? Hardly. Our heroes do not accept this and part with capable people at the early stages of romantic, friendly or working relationships.
They do not tolerate next to them and those who do not share their moral values or behave unethically.
10. “I’m good the way I am”
A sign of true self-confidence is to understand that you as a person are not characterized by what position you have, how much you earn or how many followers you have on social networks, or how you dress or look. Self-confident and self-respecting people understand that they are valuable in themselves – such as they are.
They strive for healthy relationships because they know they deserve love. They ask for a raise, confident that they deserve a higher salary. They take risks because they do not doubt their abilities. They don’t settle for less than they deserve. And it doesn’t matter what they think about them.