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The topic of abusive relationships in families has become very often discussed in modern society. Many do not understand how women generally allow men to treat them horribly. Perhaps the whole point is that many people consider the negative model of relationships to be absolutely normal: what are the proverbs like “Beat means love”.
Some women are simply afraid of loneliness and think that after breaking up with a partner they will not be able to find someone else, but this problem is completely far-fetched.
So, let’s look at the main signs that you are in an abusive relationship.
10 imposition of aid
Some men impose their help on ladies because they want to make them obligated to something. So they create a kind of binding.
You should be wary if the partner insists on providing you with any service even after the refusal. An even more alarming sign is if he does as he sees fit, even if you said a firm “no” before.
9. Denial of guilt
If your partner is always looking for someone to blame when there are any problems, this characterizes him very brightly. Keep in mind that very soon he will begin to blame you for everything, because you are especially often around. It should also be borne in mind that such people tend to forget about their own promises.
A man who often denies his guilt will constantly make excuses by being irresponsible or upsetting his partner. Some such people prefer to live off their lovers.
8. Egocentrism
When a relationship is just beginning, a young man may not seem self-centered, but this trait shows up very quickly. You should be wary if your lover is constantly chatting, and all topics of conversation come down only to him.
Egocentrism is a character trait that is very difficult to correct. If a person is also prone to abuse of loved ones, he will be absolutely sure that he has every right to behave in this way.
7. Negative and aggressive attitude towards the former
Of course, many people have a negative attitude towards former lovers, but the whole point is how offended a person is. If he talks about the negative qualities of an ex-girlfriend almost on the first date, this is a very alarming sign.
Even worse, if a man makes it clear that he despises this woman. You should be on your guard if he complains that the girl made a false accusation of abuse. Usually such accusations are true.
A man can claim that it was the girl who was to blame for all the problems that arose in his relationship. This is a sure sign that after a while you will also be accused of all mortal sins, and for any reason.
Most often, both are to blame for the problems that arise in a relationship, and a worthy person will be ready to admit this.
6. Likes to feel his power
Some men like women who are much younger than them. Most often, such a person seeks to feel power over those who are weaker. He will really like it if the girl looks up and catches every word. Typically, such women consider their partners to be smarter, more experienced and rely entirely on their opinion.
Some abusers are drawn to traumatized women who have suffered some kind of grief. Such women are very vulnerable, they are especially easy to psychologically manipulate. Usually in such cases, a man pretends to be a savior who has come to protect a weak being from all the misfortunes in the world.
5. Constant pressure on a partner
If a partner presses you all the time, forcing you to have sex when you do not want to have it, it is obvious that he does not care at all about the feelings and desires of the partner. He perceives a woman only as a sexual object.
Some men put pressure on their lovers in a different way: they too quickly begin to talk about living together, creating a family. When deciding on a serious relationship, you should not doubt your partner, so it’s better not to rush, but to get to know him better. The negative qualities of people are usually not revealed immediately.
4. causeless jealousy
If a person is jealous too often, and for no reason, it is obvious that it will hardly be comfortable to meet with him, much less live. Some women are flattered by the jealousy of partners, but there must be a measure in everything.
Jealousy can turn into insults and assault. A man can say that he just loves you very much – and therefore is constantly jealous. However, it usually turns out that this is not love at all, but a banal sense of possessiveness.
3. Total control
At first, you may even be glad that your lover takes everything upon himself, constantly thinks through plans for the weekend or for the evening. However, after a while, you will notice that the man becomes angry if you do not like any of his plans.
Then the realization will come that the partner, in principle, is able to take into account only his own opinion. He may begin to criticize your lifestyle, demand to change it.
2. outbursts of anger
Bullying is emotional abuse that can escalate into physical abuse. You should sound the alarm if a man threatens, shouts, waves his arms in front of you, pushes, holds, or even swings to hit you.
It is better to end such a relationship immediately, otherwise it will be much more difficult to do it later. Unfortunately, many women prefer to wait, hoping that their partner’s behavior will change. But then things get even worse and they just start to be afraid to leave.
1. disrespect for you
Abuse is based on disrespect. The partner should be polite, listen to your opinion. If in communicating with a woman a man allows himself sarcasm, rudeness, he is unlikely to treat her with respect.
If the beloved began to behave this way, make him a remark. In case of ignoring, you can safely part with him, because he does not respect you so much that he does not even respond to a direct request.