10 Signs You Don’t Love Yourself

How much is being written in magazines and on television now about how important it is for each of us to love ourselves.

Psychologists say that in certain situations, it is only necessary to increase self-esteem, so everything in life will immediately change for the better.

But how do you know if you love yourself or not? Sometimes we think we love ourselves. However, if you dig deeper, it turns out that in reality everything is not at all like that.

We present 10 signs, the presence of which gives a person a clear dislike for himself.

10 Guilt

With painfully low self-esteem, a person is able to reproach himself literally for the very fact of his existence. He does not leave the feeling that in all the troubles that occur somewhere nearby, there is his decisive contribution.

At the same time, this state should not be confused with constructive self-criticism, which helps a person in personal self-improvement.

It is also worth noting that quite often, next to a notorious person, there is someone who will nurture this destructive feeling with all his might for his own benefit.

9. Are you sorry to spend on yourself

You feel uncomfortable if you spent money on a new pair of shoes, a beauty salon, or just a nice change. You mentally scold yourself for these unnecessary expenses and calculate what these funds could be spent on with greater benefit.

It has more to do with a lack of motivation. For example, why spend money on beautiful clothes if “I’m fat anyway”, or why buy expensive cosmetics if “nothing will help this face”. And so on the rise.

And if this chain is not interrupted, then everything will end with a complete degradation of the external appearance.

8. Illness haunts you

Suspiciousness and hypochondria are eternal companions of people with low self-esteem. If you are good at inventing new flaws in yourself, then why not switch to disease fantasy!

But seriously speaking, such behavior can not only alienate loved ones, but also lead to the development of real diseases, such as insomnia, depression, migraines, asthenia, etc.

7. You don’t watch your diet

You may either completely lose your appetite and eat almost with effort, or you will start to seize your problems until a new one appears – obesity.

And it is much more difficult to increase self-esteem in a state when your body is 20-30 kilograms of excess weight.

6. You find it hard to ask for help and say no

You cannot refuse anyone, even if the fulfillment of the request makes it very difficult for you personally.

Therefore, people with low self-esteem often become objects of manipulation by not very decent people.

Colleagues “ride” an insecure person, the boss does not hesitate to load him beyond the norm, and friends use their reliability, “filling up” with a bunch of innocent requests.

5. You are dependent on someone else’s opinion

You doubt your strengths and abilities, so you cannot adequately analyze the events that are happening around you. Therefore, you have no choice but to make your own judgment about something not on the basis of your own conclusions, but on the words of someone else.

But this is only half the trouble. The fact is that having low self-esteem, you cannot properly “filter out” the opinions of people who are trustworthy, and those who cannot boast of either insight or outstanding mental abilities.

That is why the words of people who, in a good way, would not be worth paying attention to at all, you take to heart.

4. Compliments make you feel uncomfortable

Do you think that you do not deserve such compliments or even think that the person is laughing at you.

You do not trust outside opinion, but trust the voice of your subconscious, which constantly talks about a million of your shortcomings.

3. You don’t like looking at yourself in the mirror

“Well, why am I not Angelina Jolie?” A similar question worries many of the fair sex, who look at their reflection in the mirror with a displeased look.

It is quite possible that Angie herself asks similar questions looking at herself in some reflective object, otherwise she would not have tormented herself with diets invented by anorexics.

After all, if with masochistic corrosiveness to seek out new shortcomings in yourself, then Miss Universe will feel like an exhibit of the Kunstkamera.

2. You have failures in your personal life

This is no doubt! There may be several options here.

First: you will climb out of your skin, and not a single candidate for your hand and heart will appear on the horizon.

Second: you will attract people who are either equally unsure of themselves, who understand that it is better for them not to find anyone, or individuals with pronounced propensities for despotism and violence, because next to insecure soul mates they can fully show their unhealthy qualities.

If your self-esteem began to fall when you had already entered into a legal marriage, then a sharp deterioration with your partner will inevitably await you in the process of unjustified self-flagellation.

Remember, the dislike of one of the spouses is an obsessive delirium of jealousy, a decrease in libido, increasing mistrust and misunderstanding.

Do you want such happiness? Then continue with the same intensity to engage in unjustified self-flagellation.

1. You don’t take care of your appearance

Say what you like, but low self-esteem is a big step towards depression. And she, in turn, is manifested by indifference to her appearance.

Firstly, you become too lazy to spend energy on elementary manipulations related to hygiene (brush your teeth, comb your hair, iron your clothes, clean your shoes, etc.), in this case, you don’t have to talk about makeup and additional personal care products.

Secondly, a person with low self-esteem is deprived of an incentive to work on the attractiveness of his image, because he is sure in advance that a priori he is not able to please anyone.

With such reasoning, we can drive ourselves into a dead end, and the result will be rapid degradation, both physically and spiritually.