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We are glad to welcome you on the pages of this blog. Today I want to share with you information about what personal self-esteem is and what to do to raise it. I sincerely believe that this article will be interesting and useful for you.
The concept of «self-esteem»
The concept of «self-esteem» applies to each of us. Already from the word itself it is clear that a person evaluates himself, that is, he evaluates his personal qualities.
An interesting fact is that various external factors influence the formation of self-esteem to varying degrees. In the case of low self-esteem, a person faces problems of both domestic and emotional, psychological nature. To avoid all sorts of troubles associated with self-esteem, it is important to achieve harmony with your own Self and become happy.
Barriers to Self-Esteem Growth
First you need to understand what prevents people from being self-confident. It must be said that the formation of a person’s self-esteem is primarily influenced by the attitude of parents to children, as well as features in the process of education. The feeling that something is wrong with you can arise as a reaction to certain life situations.
In the case when a person cannot cope with the pressure of the surrounding world, his condition gradually becomes worse and worse. As a result, an inferiority complex may arise.
The most common reasons that are barriers to improving self-esteem:
- the environment constantly criticizes you;
- you are focused on constant defeat;
- endless comparison of oneself with the people around;
- you set high standards for yourself;
- your environment has a negative attitude.
Indeed, most people only oppress, they are not able to cheer, inspire hope and confidence. For this reason, in psychology, the issues of changing the self-esteem of a person and the people who surround him are very closely related.
Imagine that you are constantly told: “this is bad”, “this is wrong”, “it’s not right”. Naturally, over time, you will believe in these words.
But you should also remember that no matter how you act and what you do, you will always be criticized. It’s unavoidable. Try to avoid those criticisms and comments that have no objective basis.
Self-Esteem Techniques
In order for your self-esteem to reach the level you need, you can use various methods and techniques recommended by experts. In the case when a person realizes that he has a problem, he does not have to contact a psychologist or psychiatrist at all.
I bring to your attention the most common methods for solving this issue.
- Stop constantly criticizing yourself and comparing yourself to other people. There will always be people in your life whose personal qualities are superior to yours. With constant comparison, there will be only insurmountable rivals around you.
- Let go of the past. What’s done can’t be undone or fixed. Forgive yourself for your mistakes. Get rid of guilt. Never blame yourself or speak negatively about yourself.
- Repeat affirmations daily. Only positive statements in your address lead to an increase in self-esteem. You deserve praise and compliments. Accept them with gratitude. When you say “nothing in particular,” etc., you subconsciously lower your worth and reject what was said to you.
- Engage in self-development. Personal development can begin with an analysis of what has been accomplished. Learn from every day you live, even from mistakes. All this is your life, your choice, your experience. Read, watch informative videos, learn new things.
- Analyze your surroundings. Try to contact those who are set for personal and professional growth. Pessimists tend to suppress the impulses of others. Protect yourself from contact with such people so that your psyche does not suffer from communicating with them.
- Make a list of positive things. Remember your achievements and victories, write them down and be sure to reread this list from time to time. Also write a list of your positive qualities. Minimum 20 pieces. Studies show that regular reading of these records is a way to increase self-esteem through feelings of joy and pride in oneself.
- Learn to selflessly do good to others. You don’t need to ask for anything in return. Help others, encourage and encourage them. Not claiming a reward is another step towards personal growth in your own eyes. Take pleasure in the good deeds you have done.
- Having a hobby or other hobby. Do what you have a soul for. If your work brings you pleasure, then you are doing it well, which means that self-esteem from this only increases. Whether it’s a hobby or a main job, the main thing is that you personally like it.
- Take responsibility for everything that happens to you and does not happen. Your life is in your hands. Only you yourself have the right to plan it. Don’t look at other people. Make your own decisions. Do not wait for a reaction from others, even those closest to you. Make your choice, embody your plan and do not be afraid of mistakes.
- Start working on yourself now, this minute, don’t delay! Your self-esteem will not grow by itself if you just sit still. Accept every challenge thrown by fate. After all, in action you will have a positive attitude, self-esteem will increase, and as a result, self-esteem.
This list can be continued for a long time. However, based on the results of the diagnostics of specialists, people who adhered to these points (not even all, but selectively) achieved great results in increasing their own self-esteem.
To summarize
As you already understood, in order to increase self-esteem, you need to overcome barriers and take action. The most important thing is a positive attitude and faith in yourself. Keep records, make plans and record what has already been done. Work on yourself and you will succeed.
By the way, you can check the level of your self-esteem by passing this test.
Thank you, dear reader, for your attention to this important topic. I sincerely hope that the information provided was helpful.
I also recommend reading the article on self-criticism and its healthy level.
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