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Most parents are shocked when they find out that their child is gay. They cannot respond correctly to new information, they do not understand what their child needs, what needs to be said as words of support.
It is immediately worth noting that you do not need to swear, break off relations and be disappointed in the future of your son or daughter. Your children are separate individuals, separate from you people who have the right to their own decisions, orientation, political views, and so on.
But if you are still worried about the orientation of your child, then we advise you to take a closer look at the behavior of the child, which may indicate the first signs of non-traditional orientation.
What exactly is worth paying attention to, we will consider in more detail in the article.
10 boy chatting with girls
Sometimes boys prefer the company of girls in communication, rather than peers of their own sex. Moreover, communication with girls does not cross the line of friendship: the boy does not flirt, does not hold hands with the opposite sex, does not try to “play” in a relationship.
In such situations, the boy is only interested in communication, he supports the discussion of any topics with the girls, not necessarily typically girlish.
Friendly contact with the opposite sex does not affect the appearance of mannerisms in a boy, it’s just easier for him to find friends among girls, staying away from boys for a certain time.
9. Musical preferences
Psychologists say that in many ways the personality of the child is manifested in musical preferences. For example, during the period of hormonal explosions, boys begin to listen to heavy and aggressive music, thereby sublimating their explosive character due to hormones.
If a teenage boy prefers calm and melodic music, then this may indicate his soft nature or non-traditional orientation, since listening to calm music during hormonal explosions is not typical for teenage guys.
8. Excessive aggression
Adolescents often hide sensitivity and vulnerability behind their threatening behavior. In this case, aggression acts as a kind of defense, because often aggressive, especially in relation to homosexual adolescents, children themselves are latent homosexuals.
In turn, excessive tenderness, openness and the complete absence of aggression testify to the boy’s mild nature and can serve as a sign of his non-traditional sexual orientation.
7. Taste preferences
Food preferences may also indicate a child’s non-traditional orientation. Most often, boys like to eat junk food: hamburgers, chips, energy drinks and all kinds of fast food.
This is a direct reaction to parental prohibitions on such nutrition, which makes the boy show character and masculine stamina, contrary to parental opinion.
If the boy voluntarily prefers food that is healthy for his figure and health, eats oatmeal for breakfast, and uses fruits as snacks, then this may indicate an increased level of the female flat hormone in the child.
6. Love for art
People of non-traditional sexual orientation often choose creative professions. Agree, among hairdressers, designers or fashion designers you can often meet homosexual men.
But even without being tied to work, such people love art, often visit galleries, art exhibitions or conservatories.
5. Shyness when communicating with your gender
If the boy himself is not shy in all life situations, but is shy only in the company of peers of his gender, then this may be a sign of non-traditional orientation. Similarly, girls are embarrassed in front of the boys they like.
Embarrassment and reluctance to discuss familiar “male topics” with friends, such as sexual experiences and girls, indicates a possible problem, because such an interest in adult topics is normal for teenage boys.
4. Communication with other children
Pay attention to the environment with which the child communicates. We have already written that often gay children do not make friends with children of the same gender, as they are embarrassed.
But if, nevertheless, the boy is friends not only with girls, but also with other boys, there is a possibility that these boys are also of non-traditional sexual orientation. Especially if they have the items listed in the article.
3. Inferiority of the family
The fear of an incomplete family exists not only because it is financially more difficult for one parent to raise a child, but also because the lack of upbringing of a father or mother can affect the orientation of the child and his self-determination.
If the boy does not have a worthy example of male behavior before his eyes, then this can serve to form feminine traits in the child. It is very important for boys to have a man in front of their eyes, whom the child will respect and take an example from him.
In this case, the child’s psyche, preferences and behavior are formed correctly. Do not be afraid if for some reason the son grows up without a father: a grandfather, uncle or a good family friend can be a male example.
2. dressing up
Children may exhibit character traits that are not characteristic of their gender. For example, in men, feminine deviations can be observed. They manifest themselves in the boy’s desire to dress in women’s clothes, put makeup on his face or walk in heels.
With age, these signs affect the voice, facial expressions, gestures, making the boy, as they say, mannered.
Often, at carnival parties, gay people “as a joke” dress up in clothes of the opposite sex.
1. Parental love
By about the age of 5, the boy understands the impossibility of an erotic relationship with his mother. He separates from his parents, psychologically begins to perceive himself as an independent person and begins to search for “his” woman, seeing in front of him an example of the relationship of his parents.
Often during such a period, boys begin to play love, that is, pull pigtails and hold on to the handle with a girl from the same kindergarten group.
But sometimes the mother’s excessive love, hugs, sleeping in the same bed and attachment to the child can sharply affect the boy’s future life. The fact is that denying the need for distance between mother and son can stimulate the boy’s sexuality, which the mother may not even notice.
Therefore, in the head of the child, the fact that one cannot have an erotic relationship with the mother is superimposed on the resulting sexual stimulation. This can provoke anxiety and a ban on sex with girls, causing an increased sexual interest in people of the same sex.