Is it possible to make love with a partner when you are far apart? The pandemic has shown that this is quite possible. Now we can use tricks in everyday life and make sex varied and vibrant, even if we temporarily have to live in different cities or countries.
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“The advice that I gave to clients last spring quickly lost its relevance. Slowly undressing in front of a partner while talking via video call? At the beginning of quarantine, it was something original and piquant. But then video calls became completely commonplace, we started to get tired of them, and all the eroticism disappeared without a trace, ”says sexologist and sex coach Jill McDevitt.
Now quarantine has not yet been lifted everywhere, and not only the pandemic is the cause of long-distance relationships. And, despite the difficulties, many couples approach the problem creatively and find for themselves various forms of sexual communication away from each other. Here are some examples shared by Internet users and experts.
1. They watch erotica or porn together. “During the quarantine, my partner and I watched movies and series together through a special program, and I thought that this would help to diversify our intimate life. I heard a lot of good things about the erotic scenes in The Bridgertons and it really helped set the mood!” – says Anna, Internet marketer.
“During the pandemic, my girlfriend and I sometimes started watching porn together, talking via video link,” says Sergey, a bartender.
2. They exchange passionate letters. “One of my clients lives in California and her boyfriend lives in Canada. When the borders were closed due to quarantine, they found another way for themselves to communicate, helping to maintain mutual attraction. They began to correspond by traditional mail. She wrote to him in calligraphic handwriting on beautiful postcards, sometimes adding a drop of perfume with seductive scents. Letters went to the addressee up to 10 days and always became a pleasant surprise, ”says dating coach Andrea McGinty.
3. They communicate via video link while taking a bath. “My boyfriend and I sometimes call up via FaceTime when we take a bath. I specially ordered bath oils and candles, they help create the right atmosphere,” says Renata, a student.
4. They buy unusual sex toys. “I worked with a couple who are both in their 50s. They bought two remote control sex toys so that each could control their partner’s toy over wi-fi. This method of sexual communication gave both a lot of pleasure and helped to maintain mutual attraction, ”says McGinty.
5. They take candid photos. “When I’m in a playful mood and my partner doesn’t have the opportunity to talk on FaceTime, I sometimes put on nice lingerie and arrange a photo shoot with a striptease. I even specially bought a tripod and a remote control for the camera,” says Alexandra, technical consultant.
6. They exchange erotic parcels. “We sometimes surprise each other by ordering something online, like sex toys or lingerie. This adds spice to the relationship, ”says Marina, assistant manager.
7. They are engaged sexting — “sex by correspondence.” “My partner and I constantly “sex”. Sometimes we tell each other about our secret fantasies, sometimes we just exchange erotic photos, ”says Evgenia, a sales assistant.
“I consulted a couple from Washington, they recently moved in together, and soon the girl had to move to London at work. To maintain a relationship at a distance, the partners used a secure messenger, thanks to which they could not be afraid of “leaks” of frank correspondence or intimate photos,” says Andrea McGinty.
8. They play sports together. “We train together and communicate via Zoom. Active physical activity and unusual postures during exercise can create a sexual mood. In addition, classes help produce endorphins, and this is always a plus! – Eugenia, PR manager, smiles.
9. They fantasize while talking on the phone. “We often don’t look our best on a phone camera, so sometimes it’s better to just turn it off and let your imagination run wild,” Evgenia, PR manager, shares a secret.
“Let’s talk on the phone again! Is it not enough just to hear the voice of a loved one? A game of imagination can be much more erotic than a video call with poor lighting and a lot of dirty laundry in the background, ”says Damona Hoffman, dating coach.
10. They play role-playing games. “We began to experiment with role-playing games, we came up with a script on the go, for example, I portrayed a professional webcam model,” says Antonina, assistant manager.
Any options for sexual intercourse are possible if it suits both. Give free rein to your imagination, relax, and then the distance will not become an obstacle to love.