Contents
- 1. Say “yes” when you want to say “no”
- 2. Rely on someone else’s opinion
- 3. Check your phone while talking
- 4. Get stuck in the past
- 5. Buy things impulsively
- 6. Skip Meals
- 7. Compare yourself to others on social media
- 8. Blame yourself for unfulfilled expectations.
- 9. Maintain unhealthy relationships
- 10. Forget about relatives
Everyone has their own set of habits. Some were instilled by our parents, others we learned ourselves. We are proud of some, we would like to get rid of others. Saying goodbye to an old habit is harder than sticking to a new one, but perseverance and perseverance can work wonders.
1. Say “yes” when you want to say “no”
The list of tasks is constantly updated, and the feeling of anxiety grows. Deadlines are on, you don’t have time to take on another project or babysit a friend’s little son. But for some unknown reason, you agree. Helping others is good, but you shouldn’t do it to your detriment. In order not to overload yourself with responsibilities, highlight priority areas. Remind yourself that it’s impossible to do everything.
2. Rely on someone else’s opinion
Of course, a positive assessment from loved ones is important to us, but you should not give up what is important to you. Only you are responsible for your life.
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3. Check your phone while talking
It’s time to face it: we’re addicted to technology. While we are sitting in a cafe with friends, numerous notifications and messages come to the phone. We are used to being online all the time. Try to change it. Stop yourself, don’t reach for your phone. When meeting with others, give yourself completely to communication. You can read messages and view the feed when you are alone.
4. Get stuck in the past
We often think about what went wrong, reflecting on what we should have done differently. Feelings of guilt are sinking in. But the only way to change the past is to change your attitude towards it. The events that have led to the present moment did not just happen. They shaped you as a person, thanks to them you got to where you should be.
5. Buy things impulsively
Controlling your spending may always be hard for you, but it’s time to start spending money consciously. Sometimes you can pamper yourself, there’s nothing wrong with that. But in most cases it is better to think over purchases in advance, plan income and expenses. Learn to distinguish real needs from momentary whims.
6. Skip Meals
Some get up at six in the morning and meditate, others jump up and run out of the house in a hurry. Most people have quite busy lives. Often in turmoil we sacrifice health. We skip lunch to finish the project on time. Instead of a glass of water, we drink two cups of coffee to compensate for lack of sleep.
We think that this is how we show a responsible attitude to work. But the real responsibility is taking care of your health. Make proper nutrition a priority. Plan meals, prepare meals in advance. Resist the temptation to sacrifice lunch to save time.
Social networks are a vanity fair: the sweet life, beautiful filters, catchy captions. As we scroll through the news feed, self-doubt grows stronger. One friend bought a new car, another went on vacation to the Caribbean. It’s great to follow the lives of friends and support them, but it’s hard to avoid comparisons. Someone else’s life often looks much more interesting.
If you are about 30, you have already understood that everyone has their own path. Do not evaluate your achievements by comparing them with the merits of others. Everyone has their own priorities.
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8. Blame yourself for unfulfilled expectations.
The only person stopping you from moving forward is yourself. Maybe you are 27 and live with your parents, or you are 29 and don’t have a partner. We imagined life differently, and this is normal. Expectations rarely match reality.
It’s great to imagine what you want in life. But if you try to live according to a clear plan, you will be disappointed. Life is unpredictable. We don’t always manage to stay on schedule. The main thing is how you adapt to the circumstances and use them to end up where you want to go.
9. Maintain unhealthy relationships
Many things are not meant to last forever. So, our relationship with most people is not eternal. Surely you have a friend who makes you feel uncomfortable and tense. If you maintain a relationship with him only out of a sense of duty, it will only harm you. Personal time should be spent with those with whom you feel comfortable.
10. Forget about relatives
Alas, many realize too late that it was necessary to get to know their family members better. Regardless of the degree of closeness between you, relatives play an important role in the formation of your personality. They are the ones that have made a big difference in who you are.
Lack of time is no excuse. It is enough for what we give priority to. So call your mother, answer your brother’s text, and invite your father to dinner. These activities will help you stay in touch with your family.