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When it comes to self-love, some people take it with a grain of salt, believing that loving yourself is bad and selfish.
But a wise person is not blind to himself, which is typical of selfish people, so there is nothing to be afraid of – he is well aware of his strengths and weaknesses, good and bad traits, but, despite the fact that a person does not consider himself ideal, this does not prevent him from loving yourself and the people around you.
Love for yourself does not mean anything bad, on the contrary, when you love yourself, pleasant changes take place in life.
10 Personal time
It is good for everyone to live alone for a while, but we cannot be alone all our lives, unless we were born somewhere in the jungle, among the animals.
Each person is social and strives for development and self-knowledge, interacting with his own kind.
However, some forget to enjoy the company with themselves, being with people all the time.
When a person loves himself, then he is not bored with being alone with himself and enjoying moments of silence – it is not at all necessary to completely abandon society (this will not work), but sometimes it is useful to spend time in isolation.
9. Control over what is happening
If you stay alone and analyze what is happening, then you can be horrified by how many roles we play in life – an exemplary student, mother, difficult teenager, caring spouse, faithful friend, etc …
In these roles, we forget about ourselves, about who we really are. We don’t like to change our habits, break our self-image, because it’s really difficult. This takes courage, because many may not understand your choice and turn away from you.
But when you become more aware and start acting in your own interests, will it really matter to you what others think?
8. Communication restriction
Have there been such cases in your life when you seem to be not very pleasant to a person, but for some reason you cannot refuse to communicate with him?
When you start loving yourself, the situation changes. You do not need to become rude and abruptly interrupt communication – intuition will tell you how to act so that the person himself understands that you do not need him.
If you do not want to communicate with someone, then you have the right to declare this, a person who loves himself will never tolerate in his life those who are unpleasant to him, but will spend his time only on those whom he loves.
7. Harmony in relationships
A wise person will not wait until the situation in a relationship changes. If you are uncomfortable with a person, you have the right to end an unsuccessful relationship.
You can come to terms with something, but if you feel depressed, empty, even depressed, then why sacrifice your happiness, which you may have with someone else, a more suitable partner?
Harmony in relationships can only be created with someone who suits you, you don’t need to torture yourself and wait for the person to change – this will not happen.
6. Inattention to detail
Sometimes people get hung up in the past and attach too much importance to the negative little things that happen in their lives.
When a person who loves himself has a global, big goal, then these little things simply fade before her.
It is important not to stop believing that everything will be fine and everything happens for growth and experience.
It doesn’t matter if good or bad situations happen in life – they all carry some kind of lesson for us.
5. Farewell to the past
Many of us think that it was better in the past or in the future, but this is a delusion.
When time passes and we think about the past, we remember it distortedly – this is a memory trap. We may not have been so good at the time, but being in an unsatisfactory state from our current life, it seems to us that it was once much better.
Instead of thinking like that, you should find pluses in what is happening now – perhaps now you speak English fluently, but you didn’t know how to do it before, you finally said goodbye to debts, and in the past they were …
You need to look for pluses and enjoy what you have, and not indulge in meaningless memories of the past or dreams of the future.
4. Love for others
When a person begins to love himself, he perceives people in a new way. For example, if earlier a person looked at another, looking for shortcomings in him, condemning him for some kind of behavior, then with the advent of love for himself, he looks at another and sees in him not a set of negative qualities, but the same imperfect, but interesting personality, like and he himself.
He deserves love just as much as you do, and for this you do not need to be perfect or do something special.
3. Everything is filled with meaning
Behind each person there is a sad experience – failed relationships, reckless actions, wasted time, etc. Many things I would like to forget and never remember about them.
But is it really that bad? If not for these things, how would you study? Everything that happens to you is an invaluable experience that a person who loves himself does not neglect, but draws important lessons from it that help development.
With love for yourself, the curtain opens slightly, and it becomes clear why you once acted this way and not otherwise. You begin to look at your offenders in a new way, who were the same victims of ignorance, the situation.
2. Accessible development for everyone
In the age of information technology, everyone can become an expert in any field! And for this you don’t even need to leave your home – you can study painting, music, biology, physics, etc.
Some sites offer free lectures, lessons – why not entertaining leisure?
A person who loves himself will not waste his time anywhere. He usefully spends his time and is always happy to receive new knowledge, develop in the business that he likes.
1. No need for approval
When a person is used to being loved and all his actions are approved, setting others as an example, it is difficult for him to get out of this scheme, where everything is planned out.
Such people fall into a trap, their life is planned to the minute and they are reluctant to let something new into their lives, fearing that it will affect their image.
However, such a person can break loose at one moment, do some crazy and strange act – and this is completely normal, because we are living people. It is from these actions, from the lack of need for the approval of others, that true self-love begins.
The main thing is to understand that there is nothing to be equal to – it’s all fiction and prejudice. Each of us is free to do what he wants, and if others do not approve of it or they do not like something, this is only their problem.