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Second pregnancy: why am I more tired?
Fatigue is often much more important for a second pregnancy. We will have understood why: you are less available, the elder asks you a lot. Don’t hide your motherhood from her, your child knows exactly what’s going on. He’ll manifest it one way or another.
I feel like I’m not enjoying my second pregnancy
A second baby, we expect it differently. For the first one, you had plenty of time to center on your stomach. There were no children to look after at home. In a way, you were living your pregnancy better. There, you are much more occupied with your daily life as a mother. These nine months of pregnancy will go by at full speed. But we must not generalize. It all depends on the age of your eldest child, your inner disposition and the quality of your desire for a child.
Second pregnancy: I can’t stop comparing!
The first baby opened up a path that was both physical and psychological. For the second, we benefit from experience. You are more demanding, you know better how to choose. But you also tend to compare. That’s right, you feel like you’re more in your head and less in your body this time around. Yet a pregnancy never happens the same way. At each maternity ward, another mother’s birth process begins. Sometimes the first pregnancy was turbulent. And the second time, everything is going well.
The idea is to try to experience what is happening as best as possible, by trying to benefit from what we have learned previously, without projecting ourselves. Open up to novelty, be surprised as if it was the first time after all.
Second pregnancy: I’m more anxious than the first time
For the first pregnancy, we can do things instinctively, we do not realize what is going to happen to us. We let ourselves be surprised. While the second time, we sometimes find ourselves with stronger existential questions, anxieties resurface. Even more so, if your first pregnancy did not go well or if the first months with your baby were complicated.
Second pregnancy: I’m afraid I won’t love her so much
Isn’t he going to blame me? Will I love this baby as much as my first? It is quite normal to ask yourself these kinds of questions and feel guilty. When you have a child, accepting to have another is a passage to cross. This requires a journey of detachment from the first. Because even if it is big, the first remains for a very long time for the mother its little one. This new pregnancy changes the mother’s relationship with her eldest child. It allows it to grow, to take off. More broadly, it is each member of the family who must find their place with the arrival of this new child.
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